Hello, hello my lovelies.
It’s a new week and this means, Content Team is also going into another round. And today we start as every week with a wonderful Love Song. And I have to say ( I guess I always say this, but I always also really, really mean it) that this song has a very special place in my heart as it definitely opened my eyes back in the day to a few things. But I am bumbling along here without even telling you which song I even have in mind. It’s the wonderful and very touching
Don’t Dream It, Be It
From The Rocky Horror Picture Show
Usually when I am writing a Love Song for you guys I first gush for like ten minutes about how much I love the song and then I present you with the lyrics and the song in particular. Today I want to change this a bit around because I am pretty sure quite a few of you don’t know this song or movie. So let’s listen to it together first, before I start going into fan mode. And of course, please, by all means… If you know this song, just sing along. This song is a mantra that never gets old and it has a message we should never forget. But let’s listen to it first now.
Frank:
Whatever happened to Fay Wray?
That delicate, satin-draped frame?
As it clung to her thigh
How I started to cry
’cause I wanted to be dressed just the same.
Give yourself over to absolute pleasure.
Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh.
Erotic nightmares, beyond any measure
And sensual daydreams to treasure forever.
Can’t you just see it? Oh, oh, oh.
Don’t dream it – be it. (four times)
All:
Don’t dream it – be it. (four times)
Don’t dream it – be it. (six times as background for below.)
Scott:
Ach! We’ve got to get out of this trap
Before this decadence saps our wills.
I’ve got to be strong, and try to hang on
Or else my mind may well snap
Und my life will be lived …for the thrills!
Brad:
It’s beyond me; help me Mommy!
Janet:
God bless Lilly St. Cyr.
Everytime I hear this song I have to think a bit back in time and about my childhood, being brought up in a Christian house hold where sex and pleasure were definitely not topics to be discussed. Sex was seen for women as a chore, as something you HAVE to endure to make your man happy. Pleasure or sexual fulfillment for a woman? Who had ever heard of such a preposterous thing?
But it didn’t just stop there. Back in the 80ties not just sex was a taboo topic. There were ten million other topics to stumble over and to hurt yourself on. One of my particular fighting points for ever and ever was the way I wanted to dress and wanted to present myself. But with all the eyes of the neighbours (well, pretty much the entire village) on you it was hard to just do what you wanted. Following the herd was a lot easier, a lot more pain free and yes, to a certain extent safer.
But where is this song coming in then? Well, I had a similar experience than what Frank is singing about. Seeing someone on the screen, finding them so beautiful that you almost want to cry and recognising that this, and nothing else, is what you want in your life. I had that with a certain vampire show and the way gothics were portrayed in there. I just thought my brain had exploded and I thought this must be the coolest and most beautiful thing in the world.
Of course coming from a christian family with parents working for the church on top of this, being what I so desperately wanted to be was not really in the cards. It took a while, some soul searching and even more courage, to slowly start not just dreaming about being what I felt so deep down in my bones, but to just be it.
And it was the best decision I ever made. To say, fuck it. I don’t wanna live my life in a way that other people feel fit for me. I don’t wanna live my life in a certain way just to make the neighbours behind their curtains happy. I wanna make the people around me happy, the people I love. And even that I can just do when I am myself happy.
When it came to Frank’s “sins of the flesh” I definitely needed a bit more time. But even there… Don’t let people tell you what you are supposed to like. Don’t let them tell you you are wrong because you like something. Pleasure and lust are not bad things. They can be instrumentalized to be something bad, but love, pleasure and desire in itself are some of the most positive and wonderful emotions a human can feel. So don’t just dream about what could be. Be brave, just take what you dream about. Do it.
So yeah, for me this song has a really big place in my heart. Sorry that I am turning a bit more personal here, but this song just forces me to speak from the heart for once. Don’t let someone else take your dreams away from you. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t achieve your dreams, that dreams are nothing. Dreams are the motor that keeps pushing us forward. Dreams are what make us happy, what gives us ideas and hopes for the future. Dreams are wonderful and the only thing even more wonderful than just having a dream is to live that dream.
So in this spirit:
Don’t Dream It! Be it!
For Lizzie, my deviant sister in spirit.
First posted on BLDA
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